A-Typical Mom

Dysfunctional is My Middle Name

Bloggity Blog
Asher -- WTH? o_O You serious?
bethanybob
... I got nothin'.

See, on my "Not My Starfish" list is "become a full-fledged blogger." But I still kind of hoped I'd find my niche and that it would interest others and gain me a small following.

It's not working.

I'm not crafty, I'm not a cook (foodie, yes, if the scale is any indication), I'm not an activist (just pissy), and I suck as a parent. So I've got nothing to write about.

Believe me, you don't want me to get back into blogging about my day-to-day crap.

Blah blah blah got your lovey-dovey sad and lonely...

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Asher -- Mr. Pitiful *pout*
bethanybob
I'd really like more space than this tiny little desk, one tiny little shelf, and the smallest of all the dressers in the house.

I'd really like a shiny piece of paper that says I'm qualified to do something other than retail for the rest of my life.

I'd really like to be the mom I want to be, without everyone else in the house standing in my way.

I'd really like to not have to fix Dad's bills. Again.

I'd really like a nice big alcoholic drink.

Guster - "Satellite"
Me & Asher -- Mwahs! Baby love! <3
bethanybob


Shining like a work of art
Hanging on a wall of stars
Are you what I think you are?

You're my satellite
You're riding with me tonight
Passenger side, lighting the sky
Always the first star that I find
You're my satellite

Elevator to the moon
Whistling a favorite tune
Trying to get a closer view

You're my satellite
You're riding with me tonight
Passenger side, lighting the sky
Always the first star that I find
You're my satellite

Maybe you will always be
Just a little out of reach

You're my satellite
You're riding with me tonight
Passenger side, lighting the sky
Always the first star that I find
You're my satellite
You're my satellite


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Me & Asher -- Dynamic Duo
bethanybob
I've been doing things, I swear! The KaBOOM Playspace Finder project kind of sucked me in. And now I learn that they're looking for people to do what I'm already doing -- visit 50 playgrounds over the summer, take pictures, and write reviews. So of course I signed up, but I'll keep doing it whether they choose me or not.

I had a problem with a school playground last week. We got kicked out by a custodian. I'm still waiting to hear from the principal about their public use policy.

I went home today and grabbed my old photo albums. I scanned some pictures in and have posed the question to my Facebook friends: who does Asher look like more -- me or his dad? (You'll need to friend me to decide for yourselves.)

I'm trying to avoid my friends feed on Facebook because a good number of my friends are graduating on Sunday. It's something I cannot and don't want to deal with.

Oh, yeah, and I have social anxiety disorder.

And I hate LOST.


Fandom Meme
Me & Asher -- Dynamic Duo
bethanybob
From magickaldreamer

- Assume I'm in your fandom, whatever it is. I may or may not actually be, but that is irrelevant.
- Further assume that I am absolutely against your OTP. It's entirely possible that I'm not, and that I back it 100%, however I want you to forget that for now.
- Now, try to win me over to your OTP. What is it about them that you adore? What makes them tick? Why should I believe you? Give me pictoral evidence, canon events, personality compatibility, whatever, just tell me about your OTP.


You can read my short babble about Omi/Nagi from Weiss Kreuz here. I've been out of Fandom for so long that I had to go back to my roots. Now, I have to go home and get my Weiss Kreuz DVDs (and destroy the Gluhen ones. omg, haet).

I also want to play through Final Fantasy IX, again, because I love that game's story. Love. Kuja 4 eva, lolol.

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Me -- Light & Dark
bethanybob

Join me at charloft for the 100 Drabbles of summer challenge!

Because I need to get back into writing... someday...

My 100 Drabbles of Summer TableCollapse )

Blogging for LGBT Families - June 1st
Me & Asher -- Dynamic Duo
bethanybob


I had wanted to participate in this, again, but I'm not sure I'll have the time or inspiration.

If you or someone you know would like to participate, click on the button for more details.

Projects
Me & Asher -- Mwahs! Baby love! <3
bethanybob
Me:
- Job: working.
- School: submit deferment requests, write a check.
- Physical Health: ... oh right.
- Mental Health: HA.
- House: N/A.
- Debts: current on one loan.
- Clutter: need to go home and sort things.
- Applique Project: on hold, due to lack of sewing machine.
- Knitting Project: abandoned.

Asher: needs socializing and play.
- KaBOOM Playspace Finder: go to area playgrounds, take pictures and notes.
- "Things To Do" Project: in progress. Need page protectors.
- Asher's Birthday: aaaahhh. @-@

Charity: need to choose one.
- NaNoWriMo?
- HART of ME?
- Foundation for Children with Microcephaly?
- The Horse Boy Foundation?

Morning Outrage: Take Three
Asher -- Not Happy!!! TmT
bethanybob
I've grown up with Better Homes & Gardens magazines. Mom loves them. I love(d) them. I like looking at the pretty pictures and daydreaming of my own place.

But my heart is cracked, if not broken, today. Recently, I (and other breastfeeding mothers) was told by a BHG author that I should, if at all possible, breastfeed in a public restroom.

Do I really need to get into how wrong such a "suggestion" is?

- Lactivist Leanings': "Mothers to BHG Author – Thou Shalt Not Tell Us You Hate Our Kids"
- Code Name: Mama's "Breastfeeding and Bathrooms" (THAT is how disgusting it is)
- Hope Springs Eternal's "Better Homes & Garden FAIL: The Anti-Public Breastfeeding Comment"
- The National Conference of State Legislature's list of State Breastfeeding Laws

I cannot, will not get into a comment war with anyone who thinks publically breastfeeding mothers need to be discreet, are indecent, and/or need to cover up. The law protects my right, as a mother, to breastfeed anytime, anywhere within 44 states. PERIOD.




Good Baby, Bad Baby
Asher -- WTH? o_O You serious?
bethanybob
Before Asher was born, I heard from other moms about this phenomenon: people asking if they had a "good baby." It wasn't long after he arrived that I witnessed it for myself. I just gave the person a confused look and said, "Oh, yeah, he's great."

Supposedly, if a child rarely cries and sleeps mostly through the night, they are a "good baby." In which case, I lied. But I don't believe that meeting those ideals make a baby "good." Babies who are ignored and left to cry it out are quieter and sleep through the night more often, but that's out of depression and giving up trying to make their needs known. As an attached parent and aspiring psychologist, the thought makes me sick.

Now, Asher is ten months old. He tantrums, he's up constantly in the night, and he's into everything. What annoys his other family members the most is his tendency to blow bubbles when we're trying to feed him. The food is spat everywhere. So, these family members have taken to saying, "Bad baby!"

And my heart stops each time I hear it. "What the hell?" I say to myself, "My baby is not bad!"

I just don't get it. I don't think of myself as being a permissive parent, but I don't see how yelling at a ten-month-old is effective. Expecting exemplary behavior from a baby will only leave you disappointed. Finally, he'll eat solids without argument (or spitting) when he's ready. Forcing them only makes it worse.

Is he a good baby? In my world, he's the best. And a little troublemaking does not a bad baby make.

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